As parents to a sweet and hilarious four year old son whom we adopted, we keep birth families, both current and potential, close to our hearts. Our relationships with his birth family have developed slowly and with care. Nothing makes us happier than when his birth family reaches out to us for funny pictures or a phone call. All relationships take time and effort; we are committed to putting in the work necessary for any relationship to develop. With our son's birth family, we currently have a supportive and loving semi-open adoption. We truly believe you will know if we are the right family. Our goal is to share honestly and sincerely what life would be like in our family. If our description gives you peace and any sense of hope, we would love to hear your adoption plan, vision for the future, and dreams for your child. Please know you are already in our thoughts and prayers!
Welcome! We’re So Glad You’re Here.
Thank you for taking the time to read about our family. We hope this profile is the first step toward a lifelong respectful and loving relationship. This profile is meant to give you a brief, but honest, glimpse into the good, bad and hard parts of our lives. You must filled with a range of emotions that we cannot begin to understand. Please know that whatever decision you make, we hope you find peace and happiness. Without a doubt, we already have the greatest respect for your strength in considering an adoption plan. We admire you for looking into all of your options.
This Is Us
Joe's version of our story... Casey and I met in junior high when her family moved to town. I was quick to ask her out the first day, and she was quick to politely decline. I spent the next few years laying down my best school boy charm and succeeded just before our senior year in high school. We dated long distance through the first few years of college. Looking back, it wasn't easy, but we made it work. After college, we flew to Rome, Italy and got married with over 25 family members and friends. We settled into our careers and spent our free time traveling and working on our new house. Now, things are about the same - we love to travel, spend time with family and work around the house.
Casey's version of our story... When I was 14, my family moved to a new town. On my very first day of school, this cute but crazy boy (Joe) asked me out. I told him no, but I always thought he was brave and funny for doing that. During high school, we had a lot of classes together, and he always kept everyone laughing. Before our senior year, Joe went through a couple serious operations. When he was out of the hospital, he asked me out again. He told me that surgery made him realize you can't be afraid to go after what you want. Of course, I said yes that time. We have built a wonderful and happy life together. It hasn't always been easy. We went to separate colleges and took on challenging degrees. Joe drove over 10 hours most weekends during college to come see me. We waited almost seven years to get married, have lost loved ones, and both have had challenging careers. Joe and I know we can get through anything together. We consider ourselves a team.
We have always planned to build our family through adoption. There is a cancer gene in Joe's family that can be passed on to biological children, so we decided to pursue adoption instead.
We have also grown up with adoption woven through family and friend relationships. As we talked about starting a family, adoption seemed like a wonderful way to build a family, and because of this, we are now strong advocates in the community. We choose an ethical adoption agency, discuss our experiences with anyone that genuinely asks, and support a local birth mother group!
Meet Casey…in Joe’s Words
Casey can be described as very down to earth. She's great at being able to slow down and enjoy everything in the moment (something I struggle with). She's decisive and makes well thought out decisions. As a mother, Casey has an incredible way of talking Troy through situations. She's routinely complemented about how patient she is as a mom. She has an incredibly close family that we see very consistently. Lastly, she's always up for an adventure. Whether it's fishing, hiking or hitting the beach, she's always ready to go.
In Casey's words
I am the second of three daughters in a very loving and close-knit family. I had a wonderful childhood with my two sisters, Peggy and Holly. My parents have had a strong, happy marriage for almost 40 years. Both of my parents were very involved in our upbringing. They taught me to value family, to strive to be a good person, and to strongly believe in education. These are principles I hope to teach my children. I worked as an accountant for eight years but have been a stay at home mother for the past 3 years. Being home with our son is both incredibly rewarding and also challenging. I am so lucky that I can focus all of my attention on our family while Troy is young. One day, once Troy and any future children are in school, I would love to work part time again. I know Joseph would appreciate that too because I spend way too much time budgeting our personal finances (the result of a stay at home CPA).
In my free time, I love to read and spend time with my sisters and friends. As a family, we enjoy cooking dinner (and dessert!), watching movies, visiting museums, or just relaxing by our pool.
Meet Joe…in Casey’s Words
Joe is always the first person to help people in need, whether it's our loved ones or a complete stranger. We had been dating only a couple months when my sister's car broke down, and she called him for a rescue. I didn't even find out about this rescue for a long time; it's just such a natural part of Joe to help anyone. It's also the small, everyday things. He makes coffee each morning and even better, lets me sleep in on the weekends. On a regular basis, Joe will have Troy up and out to a car show or working in the yard on Saturdays so I can have a morning to rest. No matter what happens, I know Joe will be there for our family. When I asked him to build a combined home with my parents, he did not hesitate. It cannot be easy, but Joe takes care of us all.
Joseph is also very friendly and out-going. He loves to enjoy life, from cars, working outside, traveling with friends and family, and who knows what hobby he will pick up next. He is definitely happiest when he has a project to keep him busy. I think this is why he is so successful at both work and in relationships: he just keeps working until he succeeds. He makes new friends all the time, and he keeps them; we recently went on a two week cross-country trip with his friend from kindergarten.
Joseph is truly a good person and the best possible father. He is Troy's favorite person and best buddy. I have loved him for seventeen years, and I am so excited about our future together.
Troy is a very active and funny four year old. He loves being outside playing with his metal Tonka trucks more than anything (especially if we turn the hose on so he can have mud too). Troy and Joe collect Hot Wheels together, which creates a unique and cool relationship between them! They love to go to antique stores and find old or different ones. I have passed on my love of reading, and we read books every night before bed. Right now, he is very into reading about bugs and snakes because he is going to zoo camp this summer.
Troy starts preschool in the fall which he is a little nervous about. We know he will love it because he already makes friends everywhere he goes. When his cousins come over to swim or spend the night, he is the happiest kid!
From the time he was two through four years old, we traveled extensively for Joe's job. He is my travel buddy to see state and national parks, and we make awesome memories together. We know from the interaction Troy has had with other little ones, that he is going to be an amazing big brother!
Our Happy Place
About five years ago we fell in love with a small neighborhood just south of a large city in Texas. It has hills, trees, and is very close to the lake. We have about 3.6 acres which gives Troy room to play and Joe room to have a workshop. We are only about 20 minutes from our favorite Texas city.
We share a home with Casey's parents. There are doors we can close between our sides of the house, but usually the house is open, and Troy runs constantly between our home and Nana and Grandad's home.
We have one dog, Daphne. She is a ten year old Yorkie/mini Schnauzer. Daphne loves to bark and chase anything in our yard. When she was young, she could even catch birds. She is a little slower now and likes to go to sleep with Troy instead of staying up 'late' with the adults.
In closing, we promise to hold you and your family in the highest regard, always. Though we will never know the emotions you are feeling, we acknowledge the courage and selflessness it has taken to get this far in the adoption process. We promise to raise children in our home to be polite and respectful, teach them to be independent, to let them be kids and get dirty... but mostly, to love them unconditionally, with everything we have.
When my, Joe's, mother passed away last year, I was na?ve to think my feelings would pass in time. I soon realized that I think of her every single day. I'm confident that I'll think about her daily for the rest of my life. They say time heals all wounds, but it doesn't. It leaves a scar to keep you from forgetting but hurts less over time. As time passes, it is easier to think of her and talk about her without getting sad. Though we may not fully comprehend the emotions you and your family are going through, I feel like adoption may be similar. We promise to not only treasure your precious child, but also to respect and value your loss and grief through this process.
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